Ban These Words And Watch How Your Life Starts To Change
Oct 14, 2023
I'm banning three words!
And those words are NOT “poop”, “f*ck”, and @rse - those are very welcome!
I'm banning these three words from myself (and from my clients). And you can ban them from yourself too and see how the alternatives vibe…
❌ YOU (when talking about yourself)
❌ CANNOT
❌ WANT
❌ First up is the word “YOU” when talking about personal experiences (we all do it!).
Unless the "you" 100% refers to the person you’re talking to, of course. Instead use “I” because there’s ownership in that and it hits differently.
For example you're talking to a friend or your coach:
(say these phrases out loud and see how they feel)
🗣️ When {thing} happens you feel as though you aren’t good enough.
versus
🗣️ When {thing} happens I feel as though I'm not good enough.
They have a totally different energy in the body, right?
Using "I" is far more uncomfortable because you're owning it, and that means you can feeeeeeel it for reals. And that sh*t needs to be felt, so it can be understood without judgment, so it can be integrated, released or reframed.
❌ Next up is the word “CANNOT” (or the more commonly used "can't")
"Can't" is weak. It's giving in. It's not even trying.
Come on!
For example:
(you know the drill - say these phrases out loud and see how they feel)
🗣️ I can't do it.
versus
🗣️ I choose not to do it.
Which one is more empowering?
Even if you really believe in the moment that you can't do whatever it is you wish to do by instead deciding to say "I choose not to" gives you the opportunity to get curious a out why you are making that choice (we all make choices even when we choose not to choose).
Take a deep breath. Think of something you've said "can't " about.
Now complete the sentence: "I choose not to because ____________________________"
Anything could come up here. For example it could be "because I'm scared."
Keep getting curious...
"because I'm scared of {thing you're scared of}"
Keep getting curious...
"because {thing you're scared of} means ____________________________"
Keep going...
You see, "I can't" closes the door.
"I choose not to" opens it and you can go mooch around in your room of choices (and infinite possibilities).
❌ Finally is the word “WANT”.
As Marisa Peer says, “Want is very wanting”.
Wanting signifies something is missing - cos you want something because you don’t have it. And the truth is that what you focus on grows, right? So if you focus on what’s missing you get more of what’s missing!
Which sounds weird…
Here’s an example: You WANT more money because you think you don’t have enough, therefore you are thinking like a broke-ass (something or other), and by doing so you miss seeing all the opportunities to create and generate money in your life - you miss the opportunities because you are focussed on scarcity.
It means you miss tapping into your limitless resources and skills and taking action that will bring you customers or clients or the job interview you desire (not want).
And yes, I said desire!
That’s not just reserved for romantic nights in (ifyaknowwaddamean!).
It’s so much more powerful to use “desire" or "require" or "wish" or "insist” than “want”. These are all Marisa's suggested words BTW.
Try this on for size:
(yep, say these phrases out loud and see how they feel)
🗣️ I want financial freedom.
versus
🗣️ I desire financial freedom
Which one is more commanding?
Second one right?! Even if it just sounds a bit more fruity. Nothing wrong with that. Bring on the fruit! But let's not get side-tracked.
Remember, when you ask the universe for anything it is already yours (because ERRYTHING is already yours you’re just blocking or limiting it in some way). So the more powerfully and confidently you ask (KNOWING it’s already yours) it will resonate completely differently.
"Want" is wishy washy and it’s laced with lack.
The words you use matter.
They make a difference.
❌ Bonus fourth word is "TRY"...
"Do or do not. There is no try."
- Yoda
Yoda knows. He KNOWS!
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